What do women want? Freud spent a lot of time pondering that question. And what do men want? That’s an equally mystifying question But if you ask: What do couples want? Each woman and each man wants different things from their intimate relationship, and when it comes to what they want from their partner, the answers will be surprising and varied, and no two couples will be the same. In fact, one of the biggest challenges that couples face is that they really don’t understand what the other expects, wants, needs or hopes for when it comes to intimacy in the relationship. Maybe they’ve lost the initial excitement that brought them together and carried them through the first stages of love, but maybe they’re a new couple and they’re uncomfortable or shy about bringing up their needs and desires. And if you can’t talk about it, you can’t satisfy it either.
Couples Chemistry is a novel company that offers couples a unique and easy way to communicate, through the use of questionnaires (each part of the couples takes the questionnaire separately and then the results are combined by Couples Chemistry) that results in the creation of a personalized “intimacy kit.” The questionnaire is extensive, and directs the person’s thinking so that s/he can start to identify the types of intimate interests, activities, fantasies and desires that s/he might have. Once both partners have taken the questionnaire, a “Love Kit” is created for them, which gives the couple some products and information that will help them explore some of their shared interests, desires and fantasies.
As a product reviewer of many years’ experience, I naturally wanted to try Couples Chemistry and see how it really worked. I created a log in on Couples Chemistry (truth in reporting, there were a few glitches with the log-in process) but once these were smoothed out I was eager to start the questionnaire. The promo literature says it takes about 15 minutes, but it took me longer than that, because I really had to think about some of the questions and how I wanted to answer them. You can do some of it and then come back and finish another time, and you might want to, because there are about 100 questions. I am someone who regularly writes about sex and love and I still found some of this questionnaire to be challenging. For example, specifically how would I prefer to be touched? I really hadn’t thought about it for while. A few of the questions were fairly suggestive, but if you are going to “go for it,” answer as honestly as you can so you can get the most accurate “love kit” sent back to you. Like everything else in life, what you put into it will help determine what you get out of it.
Once the person who has initiated the process takes the questionnaire, s/he “invites his/her partner to take the quiz, via an email form. Once the partner gets the email, there is an approval process by email. Truth in reporting, I had a few issues with the pass code the is issued to unlock his/her quiz, but they were smoothed out and we proceeded. I am not really sure how my husband viewed the questionnaire. He didn’t seem to have any problems with it. In fact, he was more than willing to fill it out. Since intimacy depends upon trust, and since both of is realized that the more honest we were, the better result we were likely to get, I’m assuming his answers were truthful. I didn’t get to see his and he didn’t get to see mine. This, I feel, is a disadvantage, because it would have given us both a chance to open a dialogue, had we wished to do so. But the answers are confidential, so neither part of the couple, and no one else, gets to read the answers.
After you and your partner have each completed the Quiz, Couples Chemistry will immediately identify your shared areas of interest and provide you with a free report on how many intimate desires you share. I was sort of surprised at our areas of common interest. I really had no idea. It was very surprising. Inside a nice black cardboard box was out love kit, with some ideas about how we might incorporate some of our shared interests into our love life, including some ideas that appeal most to men, and ideas that appeal most to women. I am not going to tell you exactly what was in our personal love kit, but it contained quite a few things, most of them stowed into purple drawstring pouches with white lettering enticing us with “Try Me” or “Play With Me” on the front. Some of the items were things I might not have considered purchasing on my own, but that I was curious to try, now that they were in my home. There were some massage toys, vibrators, lubricants, condoms, and other basics that no bedroom should be without, and a few things I couldn’t really imagine either my partner or I wanting or using, but….. None of the adult novelties were seriously expensive, but they were all kind of fun. For couples who wouldn’t visit a sex shop or order adult novelties online, the love kit is a good way to add some of these items without having to select them and order them separately. Also included was a massage dvd, a sexy book, and some sensual music, a deck of “talk to me” cards with 52 intimate questions designed to “spark your relationship” and (a bonus for my husband), one vintage “holiday” edition of Playboy. The cost of the questionnaires and the love kit is $129.00. If you put this all together, it’s a decent value. But if you consider how it might make your relationship better, it could be priceless!
*if you just want to try a sampler without the questionnaire, for $79.99, you and your partner can get a surprise box of erotica, essential intimacy items, lotions, music, toys, video and provocative conversation cards.
The holidays are coming. If you’re not sure what to get your special someone this year, A Couples Chemistry questionnaire and Love Kit might just be the most unique gift you’ve ever given or received, and it could pay dividends to your both for the rest of your lives. To learn more about Couples Chemistry visit:http://coupleschemistry.com/