What are Anal Beads and How Do We Use Them? My girlfriend has pestered me about them for a while, and finally I gave her my card and told her to order them. But I’m not sure if they’re for her or (gulp) me?
Alison’s Take: What are anal beads? So your girlfriend wants to try anal beads and you’ve taken the first step by asking her to order some. Well aren’t you fortunate that you are such adventurous partners!
Like any sex toy, anal beads are not fashion statement. They’re not to wear on the outside of your body, but inserted internally in your anus, to heighten the sensations that occur as your sphincter muscles open and close around them. Anal beads can be configured different ways, but in essence they’re small round beads spaced evenly along a cord (or a stem). Some anal beads are evenly sized,but other styles can be of graduated sizes that increase along the cord or stem. Both men and women can enjoy anal beads. When withdrawn at the peak of orgasm, I’m told that the feeling can be thrilling.
I’m assuming the it is your girlfriend who wants to try the beads, since she asked for them. Anal beads might not be your cup of tea, or you might love them. If you want to try (and obviously your girlfriend does), be sure that you and your partner communicate. If something hurts or doesn’t feel right, you mustn’t be afraid to say so. You’ll need to use lube, probably a lot of it. Go slow and give yourself (or your partner) time to adjust to the first bead, and then as you insert the others, one at a time. Breathe and relax. and make sure you are turned on while you are doing inserting the beads. When all the beads are inserted, try to time their withdrawal with your orgasm, but don’t yank those beads out! Pull them straight out and do it gently.
Important! Counts the beads after using them to make sure you didn’t miss any (strings can break and you don’t want to leave any behind — no pun intended). Also, these beads must be cleaned thoroughly, and they should never be shared between partners without using a physical barrier such as a latex or neoprene condom to prevent the presence of feces. Sharing anal toys that have not been sterilized could expose you to a variety of issues, including sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Who needs that?!
Tony’s Take: What are Anal Beads and How Do We Use Them? The answer is fairly straightforward.
Anal beads as an experience are slightly different between men and women due to the presence of the prostate in the male. Like any sex toy they are designed to create anticipation and the small sensations that are produced can have large impacts on sexual tension. There are two phases in the use of such beads. The insertion phase where each bead is slowly pushed into the body, and the release phase, where the beads are withdrawn slowly to tease, or rapidly to excite. Each individual bead does not provide a lot of sensation but the sum of the beads can be quite pleasurable.
As Alison has already advised, like any sex toy that is used in the anal regions, the beads must be cleaned and disinfected thoroughly before they are used anywhere near the vagina and they should never be shared. It is highly advised to use a disposable enema before doing any type of deep anal play (which can be stimulating all by itself).
Anal beads come in all sizes, and two basic types so that you can match the size of the bead to the size of the opening. The two basic types are threaded, where here is actually a ball or “pearl,” with a line connecting it to another ball — normally five, which is connected to a ring. A second type which is a single piece of plastic where balls of increasing size have been molded into the plastic in a continuous grade from smallest to largest.